So, you’re north of 40 now and the fashions don’t always seem to be your style. The age-old question for those of us over or around 40 is what to wear, or for that matter, what to quit wearing at this age.
The warmer months are a great time to address this. This is the time of year most of us bump it up in the fitness department. And let’s be honest, it’s mainly because we show more skin in the warmer months and want to look our best. This proves to be great motivation for many, including myself. This brings me to this hotly debated topic I bet you’ve addressed with your husband, friend, girlfriend or maybe even your children. Here are some common issues:
- Have you ever wondered if your bikini days are over and if you should invest in a one piece?
- Are you considering giving your Daisy Dukes the boot?
- Is your hair on the chopping block?
If you are like me, you don’t want to stay stuck in your 20s but you still want to look current and on trend. Sorry to say, I have no hard and fast rules that apply because there are too many factors that need consideration. Let’s dive in, bikini or not, and cover the factors worthy of consideration when making the wardrobe choices that might be questionable or go against the grain of old-school rules.
Hard and Fast Rules
Okay, so your mom, grandma or friend might have some rules. And if your mom is like mine, she didn’t hold back. See if you recognize them! And I’m not picking on ladies 40 and over but that just seems to be where everyone thinks things should change regardless of other factors.
- Cut your hair if you are over 40, otherwise, you look old.
- Absolutely lose the bikini if you are over 40 (maybe before).
- No denim shorts if you are over 40. Never wear them short at any age.
- No mini-skirts at a conservative event.
Consider Your Venue
Growing up, I was raised in a fairly conservative household and being the fashion lover that I am, I liked to push the envelope. What I mean is I often wore things that made my parents want the earth to crack open and swallow them whole. And many times I was marched back into the house just to come out with something I was equally embarrassed wearing in front of my friends. The thing I learned that still applies today is that the same rules don’t apply to every circumstance or occasion.
Tip: Consider the event, the people attending and your style.
If you are a statement-loving fashionista that likes stiletto thigh high boots anywhere and everywhere, you don’t have to abandon your style. You should learn how to tone it down for certain events. Instead of your go-to thigh high boots at a conservative party, wear flat over-the-knee boots instead. And if you are hosting a pool party with teenagers, you might want to reconsider that skimpy bikini. Don’t abandon your style but choose a tankini or one piece that is equally as flattering but shows less skin or slip on a cute cover-up.
Now, this is where the different rules apply to different people. We are not all built the same, don’t have the same style and don’t attend the same type of events. What works for your friend might not work for you. Here are some factors I think should be considered when making wardrobe selections, especially when we are talking swimwear.
- Are you exercising and active? If not, and you are exposing a lot of skin, this gives you room for pause.
- Are you overweight? If so, ask yourself if you are highlighting your assets and covering up problem areas. This is where you might have to rely on close friends.
- Do you look good in it? This is important! Above all else, does it flatter your figure?
- Are you exposing cellulite or sagging skin? Most everyone I know has some cellulite and depending on where it is, you can cover it up or invest in some treatments that might make you feel better about that area. And it doesn’t mean you can’t wear a bikini. Just avoid drawing attention to it. You don’t want to put it front and center.
- Is it tasteful? Go back to the venue and think about where you are going and what you are doing. Don’t host a teenage pool party in a skimpy bikini or in stilettos. And for heaven’s sake don’t do both!
My Picks For SwimWear
Although this is not a full-on swimwear post, I’m going to give you some of my picks for swimwear this summer. Robin Piconne and Vix can cover a variety of shapes and sizes and are tasteful options. And don’t forget the coverup I’m featuring. It serves more than one purpose. Many more options and details on swimwear in a later post. This is for you gals that want to get a head start!
We’ve all been somewhere where we felt out of place because of our poor choice in attire. My experience has been to accept it, own it and move on. Don’t harp on it or you’ll draw more attention to it. Just learn from the experience. You can laugh about it later.
Location, location, location does not only apply to real estate! This is the main question you should ask yourself. It will get you into all sorts of trouble if you don’t consider it. You run the risk of being uncomfortable, physically and emotionally. The rest is going to be based on the individual and not necessarily the individual’s age. If you look good in it and you feel good in it and you are going to a venue that is appropriate to wear it, rock it. And to heck with all the old-school rules.
Start to think about upcoming events where you’ll be with groups of people and begin planning. Remember your location, type of event and never forget your style!
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